Therapy Corner: Do You Sometimes Fall Into Self-Pity?
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Do you sometimes fall into self-pity?
And what does our Kačí have to say about it?
“Even self-pity can be okay sometimes. Give yourself permission to feel it—and learn how to work with it…
Self-pity often feels like a sign of weakness, but more often it’s an expression of pain that simply had no other space to show itself. In my experience, it’s not weakness—it’s a signal that we’re exhausted and need a little compassion or attention from those around us (or from ourselves).
Occasional self-pity is completely normal. The real challenge comes when we get stuck in it for too long—that’s when we slip into the so-called ‘victim role.’
In practice, I recommend one simple step: instead of asking ‘Why me?’, try asking something else—like ‘What do I need to hear right now from someone who truly cares about me?’
That’s how self-pity can begin to transform into healthy self-acceptance.”
– Kateřina Moric, co-founder of the project and therapist
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